Christian wedding services include the phrase “till death do us part”.
But should a lifelong marriage have to end with the death of one
partner? If a man and a woman had a loving and lasting relationship
with each other, why should it all end?
Emanuel Swedenborg explains that it doesn’t. He defines conjugial love
that can develop between husband and wife as a marriage of minds as well
as a fusion of bodies, an internal as well as an external merging of two
complete people such that they share each others loves, hopes and
aspirations. Such relationships, he declares, do not end with death,
but continue in heaven to eternity. He writes: the
reason why those who enjoy truly conjugial love have eternity in view is
that eternity is contained within this love. This is because this love
increases for ever in the case of the wife, and wisdom increases for
ever in the case of the husband; and as these increase and develop, the
couple plunges deeper and deeper into the blessings of heaven, which lie
hidden in their wisdom and also the love for it. (Conjugial Love
marriage continues in heaven, do the partners still enjoy sex with each
other? Many married couples will tell you that making love with
their partner is not just a physical experience – hugely enjoyable as
this is – but also a sharing experience, an expression of their
commitment to each other, and a strengthening of their love. In
heaven, the sharing experience becomes more and more important as the
couple’s minds link together.
Sexual love among the angels, the
kind of love there is in heaven, is still full of the most intimate delights.
It is an extremely pleasant feeling, as if every part of the mind were
expanded. This affects all parts of the chest, and inside it is as if
the heart were playing games with the lungs; and this play gives rise to
breathing, sound and speech. These make contact between the sexes to be
the very model of heavenly sweetness, because it is pure. (Conjugial
we know if our marriage partner in this life will be our angelic
marriage partner for eternity? We can never be certain, but if you and
your husband or wife have been married for many years, and still
maintain a loving and caring relationship, you can be reasonably sure
that you will continue with your loving marriage in heaven. So what
happens for people who are divorced or never married, or whose marriages
did not work out? Swedenborg tells us: those who are admitted to
heaven have a marriage provided for them with a partner whose soul is so
strongly attracted to union with the other's, that they do not wish to
have two lives, but one. (Conjugial Love 50)
Swedenborg writes: In heaven a married pair is spoken of, not as two,
but as one angel (Heaven and Hell 367). In fact, he tells us
that, at a distance, an angelic pair actually appears to be one person.
It is not until they approach you that you realise there are two of
this a beautiful picture?
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